All about her... It's simple. Let me count the ways...

The ways to make her feel special that is. If you want a woman that is genuinely special, you should be treating her that way. After all, most genuinely special women won't date just any schmuck or stay with them. I hope... At least not for long. All depends on the circumstances I'm sure; but that's another story.  

1. Make her feel beautiful, everyday.

This one seems obvious. Internet Romeos everywhere are reading this going "Hey man, I call girls beautiful every day!" I don’t mean just telling a woman she"s beautiful - any guy can do that. I mean make her deeply feel, in her heart, that you think she is the most heart-wrenchingly beautiful woman you've ever laid your eyes on.

Women are often not as confident as they come across. You need to reinforce her, no matter what. It doesn't matter if she just got stung by a bee and her entire face is swollen like a basketball, she is still beautiful, and you damn well better act like it.

It's not just in what you say - it's in what you don't say. It's in how you look at her, how you talk to her, and how you touch her. Make her feel what you don't need to say, instead of just hearing what you do say.


2.Honesty

This is another big one. It may not seem like it, because honesty should be a quality that you express towards everyone in your daily life - but being honest with a woman you care about will show her that you respect her enough to be straight up with her.

Choose your words carefully, don't express your honesty in a way that would hurt her feelings, but make sure she knows that she'll get a straight answer when she comes to you for one, no matter what it's about. 

What's more, being honest with her is one sign of your respect for her, so make it a point to tell her the truth - or at least avoid lying to her even when you have the chance.

3.Start, and end your day with her.

Even if you can't see each other every day, by sending her a simple text when you wake up, and before you go to bed, she will know she's the first and last person you think of every day. That is priceless.

4. Respect her wishes

You may not always agree with everything your girlfriend says or does. But, mutual respect is the backbone of any healthy relationship. Speaking of backbone - respecting her wishes doesn't mean sacrificing yours, but it does mean being willing to bend it a little bit for her. You don't always need to get your way. Plus, you might learn something from her.

5. Listen.

In a healthy relationship, each partner relies on the other for love, guidance, and advice. Sometimes, just taking the time to genuinely listen to what she has to say, and not saying anything at all - will say more to her than your words ever could.

If a woman is complaining to you, remember that it means she trusts you enough to express her feelings to you. Don’t betray that trust. Also, ask if everything is OK or begin a conversation if you see something is wrong or if she looks stressed out, sad or beat. That's part of caring, paying attention and showing you notice.

6. Send her simple love notes whenever possible.

Make her fall in love with you all over again. Send her flowers! I know some women who have never in their lives received flowers. The expression on their face when they say it is pretty heartbreaking. "Never, not even once have I received flowers from my husband Hopefully one day." they say. Also, by sending sweet and thoughtful messages even when there is no occasion. When you take the time to write her a note or text, no matter how short or simple it is, she will realize your efforts and dedication to making her feel loved - and she will appreciate you even more for it. 

7. Don't miss the little things.

Chivalry. Often times the small things you do for a woman are the ones that count the most, because it shows you're willing to put in effort for her just because you want to, and not due to a special occasion or event.

Don't let the little things fade. The opening of doors and pulling out of chairs, holding her hand no matter how long you've been together, hugging her from behind for no reason - all speak louder than words you can say.

8. Remember the little details.

Whether it's the date you met, the song that always makes her cry, that craving for french fries, ice cream, chocolate... she gets once every 6 months (every month), that perfume she loves or that thing she said she wants -  paying attention to small details and doing something about it to surprise her, will show your woman that when she talks, you hear her.

9. Kiss her. And not just on the lips.

Now's the time to get your mind out of the gutter - When was the last time you gave your girl a kiss on the forehead? On the nose? On her hand?

Sometimes these actions speak even louder volumes than a kiss on the lips. They show her you want to be close to her, and you care about her. Plus, they're more appropriate in public.

10. Plan

Planing something you'll both enjoy; a nice dinner, a road trip, a nice weekend away somewhere or maybe even at home, just the two of you. Or if you've noticed shes's been very stressed, plan a day for her to just relax, maybe buy her a massage, spa day, mani and pedi day. Again, this shows how much you appreciate her and that you care about the relationship. That you listen.

Show her that no matter how busy your life is, despite the pressure you get at work, or the millions of other things you need to worry about - she holds a special place in your heart, and your mind. A place uncluttered by the other noise in your day, or the hectic life you probably both live.

A place reserved for only her.

Bonus Tip:

Mediocre sex often kills relationships. Make an effort. Experiment together. Keep it fresh and alive.

More to come on this subject. Stay tuned. 

XOXO 

Marysinn